Sunday, March 22, 2009


I am having trouble understanding what kind of behaviour is acceptable when you are married. For me marriage is sacret and you only marry once, which also means that you remain faithful for that one and only love of your life.

"Marriage is a social, spiritual, and/or legal union of individuals. This union may also be called matrimony, while the ceremony that marks its beginning is usually called a wedding and the married status created is sometimes called wedlock.
Marriage is an institution in which interpersonal relationships (usually intimate and sexual) are acknowledged by the state, by religious authority, or by both. It is often viewed as a contract. Civil marriage is the legal concept of marriage as a governmental institution, in accordance with marriage laws of the jurisdiction. If recognized by the state, by the religion(s) to which the parties belong or by society in general, the act of marriage changes the personal and social status of the individuals who enter into it.
People marry for many reasons, but usually one or more of the following: legal, social, and economic stability; the formation of a family unit; procreation and the education and nurturing of children; legitimizing sexual relations; to fulfil religious obligations; public declaration of love; or to obtain citizenship."

I do understand that sometimes the marriage just doesn`t work, you might distract and eventually divorce. It is sad... I now only talk of my experience what I have seen here in Italy. I really don`t know how to put this all into words... My phone has driven me crazy this week. (My friends say that I am pretty flirty which I don`t even notice myself, so partly this might be my own fault.) I get asked to go for a date quite often here in Milan. I always tell that I have a boyfriend and I am not interested. It doesn`t help at all. Usually I get the answer that: "Don`t worry baby, I am married as well." What??? Why do they even ask then...

Is it normal to receive more that 100 messages/e-mails/ phone calls from a married man in just one week? I really don`t think so! What is going on in this country with men??? My friend tried to explain me a few days ago that: "Baby, it means nothing if they are married or engaged here." I was stunned. I have a feeling that he is the first real Italian man that I have met in a year. I am definitely sticking to his friendship from now on. ;o)

I know I am a dreamer, helpless romantic, a bit "blue-eyed" and I do believe that one day I will live happily ever after with my Mr Big. I just wonder what I still have to witness until I get there...


Paul said...

I love your optimism Heidi! It's real, it's genuine and it's all you! I've found in my experiencex over the years that Italin men after a certain age and achieving a certain level of success acquire a mistress; sometimes with their wife's knowledge, sometimes without. Maybe the men you are encountering fit into this category. I admire your dedication to the ideal of love and commitment and your Mr. Big will know that he is a lucky man.

My best always,


La Signora K said...

Sounds like me ;)